Posted by daisym on October 17, 2004, at 22:50:55
In reply to I went to Therapy...thanks for your input, posted by Speaker on October 17, 2004, at 22:03:00
I went for answers too. And got so much more than I bargained for. My therapist tells me that the relationship IS the answer. He is willing to risk being fully in it: I'm more likely to leave than he is, I'm more likely to say hurtful things than he is, and I'm, for sure, more likely to be more demanding than he is. And knowing all of this, he is still willing to risk forming a deeply intimate relationship with me. So, I risk to get better. I think you are going to have to risk too.
It isn't easy. At this point I don't even know what the correct questions are anymore. But I know I'm glad I have the relationship to fall back on. It feels like I'm working with a net now. Not that the high wire isn't still scary, I'm terrified all the time. I just think he'll catch me if I fall.
Hang in. I'm glad you went and talked to him. Keep posting.
Daisy
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