Posted by badhaircut on October 4, 2004, at 12:57:56
In reply to therapy and openess, posted by rubenstein on October 4, 2004, at 9:58:21
> Is it usually better to just dive into that uncomfortable issue, be open...?
That might be a missed opportunity. My analyst usually said, "You don't have to tell me anything. But let's talk about *why* you don't want to tell me this."
And he was right: That usually was more interesting and helpful (and a little easier to talk about) than whatever dreadful secret I was agonizing over. Because a lot of times, other people just don't think the actual content of our secrets makes us as bad as we think it does.
He called it "analysis of resistance," and he said it was the true core of therapy.
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