Posted by daisym on September 11, 2004, at 15:17:34
In reply to extra session feel guilty, help, posted by rubenstein on September 11, 2004, at 14:06:27
I think you have to separate two things...feeling guilty about going more and "I'm sure I'll be fine." If you really are sure, don't go just because your therapist wants you to. You know yourself pretty well.
But if you aren't going because you are worried about being a pain, but "secretly" you really want to, then GO! I have this conflict all the time. I want/need to see my therapist a lot but I still worry about being a pain. *sigh* But I do feel so much better when I go more.
Yesterday I struggled most of the day and finally caved in and called him. I told him straight out that the struggle was about the pain of missing him...needing to know that he was out there somewhere. That I was so conflicted about managing on my own and yet being unbearably lonely. He reassured me AGAIN that touching base was totally OK, that this was just where I was in my therapy. He said it wouldn't be like this forever, but for now, I should just touch base as much as I need to. He talked again about separation anxiety and developmental stages. And how hard all the work we were doing is. So, I was glad I called and I felt better. Much better.
If you need the extra session, take it.
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