Posted by crushedout on August 12, 2004, at 16:42:32
In reply to Re: Could it really be over?, posted by lookdownfish on August 12, 2004, at 6:59:20
Oh, man, so many things, really. And yes, she has had poor boundaries and bad judgment often. I think she has encouraged my feelings (I'd go so far as to say I think she has seduced me, even if it was mostly subconsciously).
But lately, well, last week, she really acted out. I was mad at her for blaming me for her feelings of responsibility (if that makes any sense) the previous week and I expressed this to her, and she got extremely defensive and attacked me. She's admitted since then that she failed to empathize and that she said things to me that were not therapeutic but were designed solely to defend herself, but still. It's messed up.
She keeps saying her goal is to help me see her as a flawed person (my boyfriend says she doesn't get paid only to be flawed -- I've got everyone else in my life doing that for free -- but she seems to think that's her main job). So, finally, I express anger and disappointment in her and instead of helping me deal with it or integrate it or whatever, she can't handle it because her ego's too fragile and she gets defensive.
Can you tell I'm still angry?
Anyway, it's probably really healthy for me to feel this way.
> That's great news. What do you think she has been f'ing up? Is it because she encouraged your feelings? As I remember, she had shakey boundaries.
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