Posted by 64bowtie on August 1, 2004, at 20:01:29
All,
N O T!!!
In several posts I have mentioned that a universal wish-list contains happiness; a happy life... Only thing is I can't find anyone wanting to struggle and be happy at the same time, 'cept maybe my Mom, and now myself.
As I see it, happiness doesn't just happen. A genie in a bottle doesn't grant happiness the same way the lotto might pay off. In fact that's not a bad analogy. There are several stories about a dreadful existance after winning the lotto. Happiness doesn't mean carefree nor plenty of money.
Happiness doesn't imply comfort. The happiest people seem to be able to navigate strife and turmoil without succumbing to the social-blackmail presented by conflicts, coercion, and assault, foisted on them by destructive people, situations, and expectations.
Feel-good is also not happiness. Feel-goods are simply just that, and only last while they...... feel-good. Seems like everyone tries out spackling-over bad-feelings with feel-goods. It didn't ever work for me, and I bet it never works.
Since that moment when I noticed the difference between happiness and feel-goods, my life has forever changed, and my life is now my life. Recently an acquaintance friend of a friend accused me of being in denial or on drugs if I say my life has happiness most of the time, thereby my being happy. I care about this person but I can't afford to be around someone who can't see me for what I am, now that I know and respect what it means to be happy. Negative-people beware! I'm happy and you can't do anything to stop me now!!!
Rod
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