Posted by crazymaisie on July 31, 2004, at 23:13:34
In reply to Re: transference question » antigua, posted by shortelise on July 31, 2004, at 17:30:24
thanks, all of you. i actually got quite teary reading your replies. i think the idea of re-experiencing the messed-up stuff (i have issues with both parents, but mostly it's my mother) and then internalizing all that gives me something to work towards, which is very helpful. otherwise it all feels like a big mess that doesn't make any sense. i'll certainly give all that some more thought. i loved the vomitting image! in some ways it really fits , there's so little self-control! my therapist positively encourages this, but that can be quite frustrating,too, because she wants me to rely on her and be so needy (not easy for me) and yet she's only there once a week which doesn't necessarily fill the gap. also, she only mentioned transference once, quite a while ago, when i didn't really understand what it meant. and i sort of freaked out because i felt that it meant that she wasn't taking my feelings seriously, especially after she had encouraged me to be so open and expressive about them. she hasn't dared mention it since, but i have read in session because i have seen it recommended so many times on this board, and now i'm a bit more comfortable with the idea. maybe i should let her know that it's not a dirty word any more.
someone also asked whether my transference was maternal towards her or the other way around, and that made me think, too. because i certainly do have some maternal and protective feelings towards her, but then i'm maternal towards everyone (oldest sibling in a household of at best non-functional parents, so i suppose that's to be expected) still, i hadn't given those feelings much thought before. thanks for that, too.
dinah, i'm so sorry to hear about your friend. i hope you're doing okay.
anyway, thanks again. i'm sure i'll be back with more questions. (hope that's okay)
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