Posted by Racer on July 29, 2004, at 11:33:28
In reply to Re: Ugh -- therein lies the rub..., posted by daisym on July 29, 2004, at 0:43:51
I had to call her back: she's going out of town next week, so we were scheduling another session this week and I missed her call about it. I had to call her anyway, so I included the part about the interpersonal tension so that I wouldn't back away or forget it in the meantime. I wouldn't have called just to tell her about that part, though.
And I have this little background fear that I'll refer to "Dr EyeCandy" in either a writing assignment or a session, too. I know I won't do it to his face, because I'm such a stubborn git I refuse to call him anything at all! Long habit of stubbornness on this one: older doctors, whom I respect, I will call Dr LastName; younger doctors I respect I call Dr FirstName; all other doctors are FirstName only. It's got to do with my prickly insistence on being treated with respect: the less I feel they treat me with respect, the less respect I'm willing to express to them. And you know what? Especially the vets who've gone from FirstName to Dr FirstName? Once they know me well enough to bring it up, they've all told me that they knew they'd *earned* my respect then, and they appreciated it. And it improved our relationship.
People doctors are more sensitive about those things, though. And Dr EyeCandy is so damned prickly himself about everything, that I'm afraid to call him by his first name: "Darling" (But Darling is my ex-bf's name, so I do find myself occassionally telling a "darling" story, usually about Darling's older son, my SonShine. No doubt fodder for psychoanalysis...)
Names are important. I think we've discussed my interest in the philosophy of linguistics? That's part of why I like having a "name" for these people. But I want to be very careful with The New Good Therapist. Not Barbie, because that kinda connotes a stereotype that no one really respects anymore. I want something that expresses what she already means to me: proof that my fears based on TTFTBL were unfounded; a thread attached to a rope that I can hold onto until I find my feet under me again; a voice in the darkness. So, I"ll be considering it very carefully, and until then she'll be The New Good Therapist or some variation on that.
Thanks, Daisy.
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