Posted by shortelise on July 23, 2004, at 2:41:19
In reply to Re: Met T on the road--Update, posted by Blossom on July 22, 2004, at 18:12:35
Ugh. Unpleasant.
I have felt that way about my T, that he is angry at me, finds me stupid and boring, wants me to go away, etc. To date he's done a pretty good job of convincing me it is about me and my transference and projection, not about his actual feelings. He has once in a while said that my perception of his mood was valid, though, which is why I tend to believe him.
So, you have to go back and say blah dee blah, you said this, I felt this, and on and on and on - you gotta slog through! That's the only way - I wouldn't suggest changing therapist because it sounds like you are in it up to your eyeballs with this guy. You have every right, and some obligation (to yourself and the therapeutic process), to talk these things out. Say it up front, girl, say how you feel, what you perceive and how you feel about it. Hurt, anger, insult ... whatever. They are your feelings so there is no right or wrong. If he's a decent therapist, he can take it - it's basic therapy to deal with this stuff!! If he can't take it, then he's a lousy therapist and you'll know to get the honk outta there.
Have the courage, becuase if you have it there where it's safe, you'll find it comes into other parts of your life, and when that happens, life gets better.
The world according to Shorte, when it's too hot to sleep...
And hey, I think I care, Blossom, as much as a total stranger who doesn't know you can care...
Shorte
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