Posted by antigua on July 9, 2004, at 14:05:12
In reply to Crawling back out of the hole, posted by daisym on July 8, 2004, at 0:20:18
I'm glad you were able to crawl out; I was getting worried about you.
You brought up moving every two years when you were young. That struck a huge chord w/me. We moved all the time--every year or two after living in one house for five years. After my parents divorced I came to live w/my father and moved two more times in high school.
This is a really big issue for me. I never planned on moving my kids around because I wanted them to have the security that I never did, so we've lived in the same house for the last 14 years; it's the only home my younger two have ever known, and my older son has lived here 14 of 16 years. While that makes me feel good, I was hit w/an entirely different situation that I hadn't planned for: my children are afraid of change. When my son went on to HS he hated it, he just didn't like things being different. He does not like change. My other two are the same way. So I thought I was doing them a favor by staying put, but it has also made them afraid of change.
I'm certain that they will manage, it's just ironic to me. We have bought a new house (for the first time in 14 yrs I can actually imagine living somewhere different!) but we are going to rent it out until my son is out of highschool so he doesn't have to make the move. He will be moving on soon enough to college and I'm willing to do this for him.
Stability is really important to me since my early life was so chaotic.
I hope you're feeling better,
antigua
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