Posted by Dinah on May 22, 2004, at 22:51:02
In reply to Wrong therapy for depression?, posted by tabitha on May 22, 2004, at 12:35:47
Tabitha, have you ever seen the movie "The Four Seasons" with Alan Alda and Carol Burnett? There's a line in there that sort of formed my relationship expectations. It compares relationships to a wave, with crests and troughs. (And I think adds that at the moment, the couple were in a trough. :) )
You've had a long history with your therapist. It could be that you two are just in a real trough right now. A long lasting real trough.
Or it could be that the relationship has changed with the addition of group so that the two of you don't have the same goals or expectations?
My therapist and I are in trough right now that dropped abruptly off of a real crest. His view of my level of functioning is not as optimistic as mine is. He doesn't see change as being on the therapeutic table. He sees his job as pure support. (Except for making me look nice for company.) I'm a bit discouraged and angry at his assessment.
It sounds as if the opposite might be happening with your therapist. That she used to be more supportive, and is now pushing change more than support. Which would be bound to be jarring. Especially if her view of what needs to be changed doesn't mesh with yours (which is my therapeutic problem at the moment).
Have you talked about this with her? I'm guessing you have since she's talking alternatives.
I suppose I'm always in favor of trying to salvage a long term relationship that's been rewarding in the past. But I also realize that there comes a time when salvage efforts must be abandoned.
Geez, that was helpful, wasn't it.
Sorry Tabitha. I know how painful this must be for you.
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