Posted by DaisyM on May 18, 2004, at 19:36:30
In reply to about this therapist...., posted by karen_kay on May 18, 2004, at 14:59:11
Karen,
No yelling. You sound like you need a hug instead. Wish I could give you a real one.
I'm sorry you left upset again. I guess I don't want to believe that he was aiming to hurt you on purpose but rather to engage you in some meaningful way. And to prove that he does "know" you pretty well. He seems to be struggling a lot with boundaries in group. His stuff, not yours.
I guess the question is, did you get anything out of it and do you think you will in the future? I think the agony is worth it (see my post below) if you are getting something back. Only you can decide what you are hoping to get from this group. I hope it still isn't just helping him.
As far as the homeless goes, I want you to really think about the help they might need and want. As someone in social services, I can tell you that often our pity is misplaced. Not being homeless yourself, contributing to society by working, going to school, living a good life may not seem remarkable but it contributes to the overall good in a way that can't be defined. I love that you are sensitive and want to help. There are so many ways to do that when you are ready and have the time and energy. But being good to yourself doesn't take away from anyone else. It doesn't help them to beat up on yourself either. The best way to help is to make a success out of your life. Truly. I promise. Then things will be put in your path that you can and should help with. It will be "your turn."
I hope you believe that. Hugs from me.
Daisy
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