Posted by Fallen4MyT on May 17, 2004, at 19:24:41
In reply to Abandonment Fear!, posted by Aphrodite on May 17, 2004, at 12:03:37
Hi I can be selfish and am neurotic too so join the club :) I think I would maybe ask him if he plans to leave in the next 3 years as he did bring it up he should have no issue sharing that info to help comfort you. He may be under contract to stay too if he isnt in private practice..he may have a lease...if he is pdoc he may have to hang due to the hospital if he deals with one....I really would ask..For what its worth..I moved a while back and tell everyone I hate it here..and do...but no move in sight so just cause he wants to leave doesnt mean he will...Hugs and sorry youre kinda scared on this
> I can't stop thinking about something my therapist said two sessions ago. He said something in passing about our city not being a great place for him, that he doesn't find many kindred spirits here.
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> I choked. He's not married and doesn't have children; except for his extended family, he has nothing to hold him back from going anywhere he likes. As some of you may know, I'm trying to open up to him more, but this just made me paralyzed. What if I do and he moves away?
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> Of course, I want him to go wherever makes him happy. I am sad for him that he isn't connected here. But, I also don't want to depend on someone who may very well leave. That's happened all my life -- those I get closest to either die or move away.
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> Did I read too much into his off the cuff remark? It's not like he said, "I'm thinking of relocating." But he also has never said anything reassuring like, "I'm not going to leave you in the middle of this."
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> I can be so selfish, not to mention neurotic.
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