Posted by crushedout on April 30, 2004, at 8:14:36
In reply to Being practical here . . ., posted by Aphrodite on April 30, 2004, at 6:56:28
Aphrodite,
I don't deny that her concern is legitimate. But this struggle for a third session began *before* I began contemplating leaving her (and long before she knew I was contemplating that) and is in fact a huge part of *why* I've been thinking about leaving.
So it's a bit of a Catch-22 we're in: I want to leave because she's not meeting my needs, and she won't meet my needs because I might leave her.
The thing about shadows' suggestion, although it's a good one, is I already spend about an hour a day (at least) *every* day writing about and preparing for my sessions. Which admittedly may be a little compulsive. But I end up never having enough time to cover everything I write about, and it all piles up and I get frustrated. That's why I keep asking for more time.
> Hi Crushed,
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> I understand how you must feel. I want to be objective and look at this from her perspective. Since she knows you have contemplated leaving and that you've seen another therapist, it seems a logical conclusion to draw that if she gives you 3 sessions, and then you leave, she'll have to find 2 or 3 new patients. That would make her work life a little insecure and stressful. It sounds like a reasonable business decision. It seems like a tenuous profession if you ask me; I think there would always be a fear of not knowing if you'll be able to fill slots consistently enough to be financially stable.
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> I like shadows suggestion of spending another hour of the week preparing for the second session. Maybe it will progress like you've had 3 sessions after all.
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