Posted by shadows721 on April 29, 2004, at 13:13:19
In reply to Shadows721 Please help, posted by Beta on April 29, 2004, at 6:42:18
When I started this journey, I thought it was just about getting my memories back. Also, I thought the therapist would really help me find out what was wrong with me. I was wrong on both counts. Therapy is about getting what you need out of it. It's about making your own discoveries. I thought that I could just read a book or journal away and get rid of the problem. Nope again. Books help explain the pain we go through and give support. We are each unique and can actually write our own books. In regard to your question in addition to the courage to heal book, I recommend the following:
Secret Survivors By E.Sue Blume
(explains aftermath & symptoms of abuse)Repressed Memories by Renee Fredrickson, Ph.D.
(tool to help dig up painful memories, which is useful in therapy setting)Getting through the Day Strategies for Adults Hurt As Children by Nancy J. Napier
(Very comforting book to me)<<Warning: Please take care when reading others accounts of abuse. I wouldn't do that unless I was in therapy. Reading other books on accounts on abuse can revictimize the child inside.>>
Therapist don't know more about us than we know about ourselves. They can only see what lies or denial we are still into keeping up. They aren't superhuman and aren't all knowing beings either. They have their hang up and problems just like everybody else here.
Therapy involves going up against those old tapes deep with in our minds that are still controlling the course of our lives. It's a self discovery process. Therapist can help guide us in the right direction, but the director is ultimately the client. When you are ready, you will go to a painful issue and work on it.
You may hear that therapy is like peeling an onion. Every problem has many layers to it. Getting to the core is the goal. Therapy will expose many cores if we allow it.
Thanks for your kind words. It means a lot to me.
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