Posted by shadows721 on April 20, 2004, at 22:49:29
In reply to T's...false sense of security!, posted by Speaker on April 20, 2004, at 21:21:36
I can totally relate to your feelings. I had that for years until I found the right t. I have had 3 therapists before the last one. My first was very nice, but she cried when I shared details of my abuse. I couldn't do that anymore. I felt like I was hurting her. I wasn't even crying. The next t was just too cold. I just couldn't bond with her for anything in the world. The next t was great until she had a baby. After that, she acted very parental with me. I said no to that one too. This last one feels like I am not with a t at all. She mainly listens to me, which is a good sign.
I totally agree with you. It is a very unusual relationship. You aren't friends. Therapy is just that. It is just for you.
If this is the right t for you, you will in time feel able to let down and open up. But, let your instincts be your guide. It isn't always easy to find the right match. You have to feel very comfortable with this person to get what you need.
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