Posted by lonelygirl on March 24, 2004, at 21:08:54
In reply to Re: Therapist Attachment - Help » lonelygirl, posted by fallsfall on March 24, 2004, at 7:45:50
He has acknowledged that "this must be really scary for you." I couldn't really say anything... I don't know, I don't like saying I am "scared" of anything. I don't really feel like I'm "scared," at least not the way I would be if in imminent physical danger or something. I think it's more like worried or upset or uncomfortable.
I think I have mentioned before that his theoretical orientation is cognitive-behavioral and interpersonal, which seems to be a lot different from some of the therapists other people here have. For example, CBT apparently doesn't really believe in transference per se. It also seems like CBT is usually shorter-term (though I'm not quite sure about this).
Basically, I'm not really sure how he is going to deal with termination, or if he even thinks it is an issue. When we were getting close to the end of my mandatory 6 sessions, he just told me the week before to think about whether I want to continue. At the last mandatory session, he asked me and I said no, and he sort of said his goodbyes, then asked if I wanted to have a follow-up in a couple of weeks, which I agreed to. Then at the follow-up, he asked me if I wanted to continue, and I couldn't really make up my mind. We were going over time and I think he was getting annoyed at my indecision, and he said that I could either make an appointment and then I could always call and cancel later, or I could not make an appointment and call and make one later if I wanted. I took the first option, but for all he knew, I could have been planning to cancel it and then I would be leaving for the last time.
Also, he is at the student health center, and I don't think they really do a lot of long-term counseling. This probably isn't something they deal with a lot. I guess my point is that I don't know how much good it would do to mention this to him, and maybe he would even get freaked out to know that it is such a big issue for me, and act like I'm weird because of it.
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