Posted by DaisyM on March 2, 2004, at 19:42:19
In reply to Re: She did explain a bit, but..., posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2004, at 18:47:17
hmmm...how about this:
"I know we are learning a lot about each other in these first few weeks, especially about how we communicate. I think I may have miscommunicated in our last session a bit...I want to talk about my self-doubts, I wasn't hoping to have you validate a complaint I had about this agency or one of your coworkers. But, I have to say, I felt really shut down. On the other hand, I appreciate that I do not know you well enough yet to know whether, "I can't discuss it" means the entire subject is off limits, or discussing coworkers, etc. etc. And I realize you do not know me well enough yet to know if there is another agenda at play here...as in, will I sue everyone in sight? But here is what I was hoping we would talk about and perhaps a better example of what I was trying to say..."
Just my thoughts. I'm sorry it was so hard. Hang in there. If your overall impression is that she will be good, getting past reading each other is worth the time it takes. I think my Therapist is top notch, but he misread me a few times in the beginning. Actually, even now, he misses, once in awhile. Last week he was problem solving for me, noticed I had gone very quiet, said, "where did you go? I guess I'm problem solving this issue and maybe that isn't want you need...so tell me more..." I was surprised, but appreciated that he noticed that we had stopped communicated and it was only him talking.
It takes time. Lots of it. Try again.
-D
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