Posted by antigua on February 25, 2004, at 20:45:50
In reply to Re: I asked for A Do-Over » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 25, 2004, at 17:04:41
Sorry to bust in here, but I have to tell you that I really agree with you about not wanting to be labeled "The girl who was molested by her father." I KNOW that people treat me differently when they find out and I don't care one whit if any T, psychiatrist, counselor, etc. tells me I'm wrong. I'm right and it's been proven again and again to me, and at this point it is still very painful to me. I'd rather not tell at all because I don't think other people can handle it or they are embarrassed by it, or they pity me because they don't understand. A lot of times I'm met w/silence, which can be the worst, invalidating response of all. I'm not paranoid, I know it's true--whether I'm evaluating their reaction in light of my own feelings, or if the other person has issues of their own and what I say makes them uncomfortable with their own issues.
I will not be known as that girl. I will not be a victim anymore.
This is just a rant. Don't take any of it personally, it's not "aimed" at anyone. Also, in response to your response to me, don't get me wrong--I, too, have a great life and while I may have some problems, I am very grateful for the good things in my life and I realize how fortunate I am. But, I, too, would like the nightmares to go away. I believe they will eventually.
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