Posted by tinydancer on February 25, 2004, at 11:44:23
In reply to termination and wanting to stay unhappy, posted by QuietHeart on February 24, 2004, at 23:32:19
This is something I recall having fleeting thoughts about also when I beginned therapy.
I don't believe that we want to stay unhappy, any of us. But what I do believe in is comfort zones and safety. If you have been unhappy for a long time, that is an emotion that feels safe, its a comfort zone. What you have in the room with your T is safety-a safe haven. I have struggled with this a lot, but my T has given me a great deal of understanding and support about precisely this. He doesn't think its bizarre or unnatural that I feel that way.
I think you might be surprised what comfort you may get out of sharing these thoughts with your T. Isn't it natural to seek out those people who care for us, *seemingly* unconditionally?
Is there a particular thing you are afraid of, like that your T will terminate with you if you talk about this?
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