Posted by Karen_kay on February 19, 2004, at 12:15:22
In reply to Re: Not a good session » Dinah, posted by tabitha on February 18, 2004, at 16:44:06
I think making a list and going over evrything is the desired goal, isn't it? It sounds lilke a wonderful plan of action. This gives you a chance to tell your therapist exactly what you think and feel about things (ie, telling someone your negative reactions) but in a safe setting.
If that happened to me, you bet your bottom I'd be right there yelling at everyone. And I'd be yelling at my therapist for weeks afterwards.
You sound like you handled yourself well. There is value in telling people things you find irritating, ect. I stsarted doing it with my friend. It doesn't mean they'll change, but it helps to get your anger and disgust out of your own system, you know? Maybe you could start with close friends or relatives, those who love you. I started doing it with my friends and it has improved my relationships with them. They now acknowledge that they aren't always supportive, fun to be around, have a big arse, ect... And when they start to acknowledge what you say, it feels great! You not only feel like you've helped someone to be a better person, you don't harbor the anger anymore. Think of it this way, you're changing the world one step at a time...
PS. (Like I'm writing a letter..) My therapist is beggining to suggest I start group. For the most part, how's that working for you? What's it like? Do you feel like you've made progress since beginning group? I think he's only suggesting it to keep me as a client, as he says I can be his assistant, but I'm considering it... Any commments would be great..
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