Posted by Racer on February 16, 2004, at 11:21:20
In reply to Re: Shame - is my therapist perpetuating it? » Dinah, posted by lookdownfish on February 16, 2004, at 4:43:34
OK, this is really personal, and hardly anyone I wasn't related to or sleeping with has ever heard this one. Please recognise the courage it takes to tell it publicly.
{{Deep breath}}
The women in my family for many generations have all been built the same way. Big bones, tall, lean, very small breasts, and long, narrow feet. Tall means between 5'10", for the single shortest woman other than myself, and 6'2" for the tallest member of my generation. We're recent enough immigrants to know that my cousins still in Hungary are about a foot shorter, so my theory on the height issue is better nutrition here over two generations. Anyway, shoes sizes range from a 10 AA to about 11AAA. Bra sizes in the AA to A range, except for those with weight problems, who are usually about a B cup. They also have long legs, big bottoms (not huge, they're lean, remember?), and very long waists.
I'm 5'8 3/4" tall. I wear a size 6 1/2 B shoe. I'm very small boned, have a waist up around my ribcage, and wear a DDD or larger cup. The measurement around my ribs, just below the breasts, is about 28". Now, think about that. Lots of tall, thin women with long thin feet, and flat chests. Then think about me, looking entirely and completely different from them.
OK, now for the family joke:
"How did she get those boobs? Was it generations praying for boobs and those prayers all being answered at once?"
My answer to that question: "No, when my mother bound my feet, it all had to come out somewhere..."
Finally, I know, we're all exhausted by now, FINALLY, here's how it applies:
Just as in that joke, "it all has to come out somewhere." If you bind down one aspect of yourself, it will find a way to make itself known.
And personally, I'd prefer, say, size 8 shoes and a B cup...
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