Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2004, at 13:18:56
In reply to Re: I think I don't understand sex *at all*, posted by tabitha on February 7, 2004, at 12:14:32
> > Is it a physical defect or a psychological one?
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> Or maybe you're just highly evolved... you see it for what it is.. a few minutes of friction (that description is going to stick in my mind)Lol. Oh dear. I have a nasty habit of phrasing things so that they drain enjoyment. My husband hasn't gotten drunk since I said (back in college) that his drunk friends didn't get red like they did in the movies, they got pale, flaccid, and sweaty. Apparently he didn't like the concept of pale and flaccid. ;) I like the idea of highly evolved. :) You're good for me, Tabitha. You have a real talent for reframing.
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> I'm not sure I get it either. I think it's the meaning we attach to the act, like if I have sex with person A it will mean I'm attractive, or that they love me, or it will make them mine, or I'll magically absorb some of their qualities, or something.I'm guessing there must be an overlay of some sort of meaning. Because arousal, buildup, and release are rather simple things in and of themselves... Pleasurable yes, but simple.
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