Posted by Karen_kay on January 22, 2004, at 16:33:44
In reply to Re: Bubba (my therapist) freaked out!! » Joslynn, posted by Karen_kay on January 22, 2004, at 12:00:27
Ouch..I couldn't stop shaking because he was really upset during the session, so I called so he would say, "It's OK, I'm not mad, blah blah blah." He didn't really say that. I could tell by his tone he was still very mad at me. He did say that now I know where the boundaries are. I can ask questons but not attempt to get involved in his personal life. That's not what I was doing. I HATE being misunderstood!!!
And he said that I crossed a boundary by looking his number up in the phone book. Now, how stupid is that? Am I the only one who thinks that is totally ridiculous? I mean honestly, some one tell me the truth on this one. I am not a stalker, but he makes me feel like I am. He told me that he didn't believe me when I said I didn't drive by his house. Then he said he only did it to test my reaction. HUH??? Well, at least I've learned not to be honest with him again. And I don't think he's that handsome either. (Is that black and white thinking or just being realistic now? Stupid dx...Gets me every time.)
I have half a mind to tell him that if he didn't tell me so much about his stupid personal life I wouldn't be so interested. But, of course I won't. Golly gee guys, I just feel awful! Like someone let all the air out of my balloon. Bubba didn't handle this situation so well. I felt accused and I don't like that feeling. I understand that he was a bit freaked out when I told him this, but I haven't ever called him or harrassed him. And he knows that. And I was being honest. Now I just feel foolish. Why is it that I stick my foot in my mouth so often, just at the wrong times. I wish I had my foot in my mouth before I let this whole situation slip out. At least then I wouldn't feel so horrible. Besides, aren't they supposed to make you feel better? :(
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