Posted by Medusa on January 20, 2004, at 13:11:57
In reply to Re: depression's selfless function, posted by cordy on January 18, 2004, at 15:46:27
> So is it a book that I just read?
There are books - and I've gotten a lot of relief just by reading and thinking.
> Or does it involve, like, doing things? like, talking to him?
>It might. Some ideas are pretty weird - like THANKING someone who was a real jerk. Not thanking them for anything bad, only for things that were truly helpful or positive. It turns out that a lot of freedom comes from giving thanks ... in a way, I found that it highlighted just exactly how LITTLE there was to thank for.
>I don't care if he's happy. He certainly never
>cared whether I was. Not my issue much?But him not caring whether you were happy was a big, big offense. And I bet that it hurt you on some level. Even though it's "not your issue much". I know people who are depressed, really horridly hideously depressed, and they CARE about whether their kids are happy! I wouldn't link the two factors. I'm guessing that you could use some kind of freedom from the damage he inflicted by not caring.
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