Posted by Elle2021 on January 4, 2004, at 21:25:30
In reply to Re: I'm in the mood to SI cause your near me » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2004, at 11:21:36
> I tend to be an emotional sponge as well. Now that I have a working tape player, I'm going to try to listen to my tape on mental shielding again. I already do some visualization on blocking the unhealthy emotions from others, but it's hard work.
If you can give me any tips on mental shielding from your tapes, it would be really helpful!
> If you can possibly set up boundaries with this person, it might be healthier to do that. It's harder, but not impossible, to do it with family.
I have tried to set boundaries with this person, but it's hard to stick with them. Especially since this person knows the right thing to say to me to make it hurt deep. Plus, I live with the person, so they are always around me. I am working on trying to get a job (so I can move out), but that is proving more difficult than I thought it would be. I have quit all my past jobs (about 5-6 this past year), only once did I give 2 weeks notice. So, when the interviewer calls the past employer, well, lets just say I don't get rave reviews.
> For me, the self injury urges comes from feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, mixed with anxiety or anger. Anything that empowers me reduces the self injury urges.
The urge for me to self injure come from the same feelings you described. The thing is, that when you say anything that empowers reduces the need to SI, well, for me, SI makes me feel like I have a say in what happens to my body. I'm almost inclined to compare SI with anorexia. The reasons people start doing it are similar.
> Unfortunately, there are still situations and people with whom I just can't seem to manage that. :(
me either.
> Congratulations on not acting on the urges!
Thanks.Elle
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