Posted by antigua on January 4, 2004, at 16:26:39
In reply to I'm afraid to meet my new EMDR therapist, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2004, at 10:01:12
Dinah,
Have faith--faith in yourself and everything you are trying to do to get as well as you possibly can be. I know how scary it is to reach out to someone new. While I had actually met my EMDR therapist years ago, I was still afraid to go see her and begin EMDR. Part of me didn't want (and still doesn't want) to connect w/her in the way that I connect w/my regular T because I don't want to take any risks of being hurt. So, I just look at her as a tool; she is using EMDR to help me bring feelings and memories up that I have been afraid to face. I like her enough, but I don't need to love her or care for her as I do my regular T. It's safer for me that way.I had a horrible experience w/another therapist earlier this summer (CBT guy) and I was so hurt when he rejected me. I had made a unilateral decision to "trust him" (and I don't trust anyone!!) and he didn't turn out to be worthy of my trust. I was too far into my black & white thinking. Now I realize I don't have to take that all or nothing risk w/just anyone (or everyone).
Yikes, I'm rambling. Sorry Dinah. I'm just trying to tell you that you can go slow w/your new EMDR therapist and decide whether or not to trust or to continue. Keep sight of your goal--to make yourself better.
Good luck,
antigua
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