Posted by Medusa on January 1, 2004, at 3:57:16
In reply to Re: Family Evaluation » Medusa, posted by tabitha on December 31, 2003, at 16:57:16
> I'm just surprised a therapist would make a suggestion like that.
>
Hi Tabitha, I think that's the point. Instead of arguing that I shouldn't bother with my siblings, they said, "Do it! Make it work!"
My first ideas were -
- stop giving my siblings things/help/connections etc (this fosters the give/take imbalance and feeds their view of me as a supplier)
- show them who I am (by speaking up about what's important to me)and then I realized, I could keep on working toward this "goal", and could probably play a fancy game that *could* achieve a certain end ... but I didn't care.
So I feel like I got the fast-track version of giving up on Project Siblings, rather than having to work through feelings and guilt for "abandoning" and and and. Call it mind-games on the therapist team's part ... but I don't care, because it got me to where I wanted to be, in the space of one session and the week following.
I also don't care whether this was their intention. It feels like progress - tremendous relief - and so if they do happen to want to continue on the sibling question, I'm not sure I'll cooperate, unless they can give me novel challenges.
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