Posted by crushedout on December 18, 2003, at 22:43:52
In reply to Re: Do You Tell your dreams in Therapy? , posted by Rigby on December 18, 2003, at 9:42:44
this is a fascinating topic. but i'm even more interested in the boundary crossings of which you speak, rigby. would you be willing to say more about them? and what bothered you about them?crushedout
> Interesting topic! I dream vividly with the content generally being extraordinarily violent (beyond the beyond.) The dreams are so disturbing that to get them out of my system in the morning I'll write them down. I send them to my therapist. She reads them, does some analysis on them and then we go over them. I actually think this is one my therapist's strengths: dream analysis. She'll usually catch something that I wouldn't have thought of. She also has made comments about my writing (she's into it) so who knows--maybe it's entertainment for her.
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> I've had many dreams about her--one that was extremely erotic that was sort of not even possible to go over with her. I sent it to her because I felt she was crossing boundaries with me (she was) and it was genuinely where my conscious and subconcious were.
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> I still haven't gotten over the boundary issue with her--she admitted it briefly and then got defensive ever after. Finally, when discussing it not too long ago she was arguing her point about it and I said, "Fine. I give up. You're right. Nothing was weird. You did nothing wrong. I'll shut up now." And she said something like, "Well, that sounds like a big fuck-you" and I said, "Well, yeah." I told her I had no idea if she was a defensive person in real life but she was most excellent at "defending" herself with me. She fell silent. And sorta talked to herself, "Huh. I never thought of myself that way."
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> Next session she committed to hearing me out better--to listening more to how I was feeling. Kinda bizarre to have your therapist say they will listen better in the future. Aren't they supposed to be the ultimate listener?
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> Anyway, that's all kind of a vent--and sort of off the dream topic.
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> Thanks for *listening!*
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