Posted by Karen_kay on December 18, 2003, at 20:23:34
In reply to I'm angry - semi-long rant, posted by DaisyM on December 18, 2003, at 18:56:32
Ouch... It hurts when they don't say the right things at the right time. I remember before I started getting into the hard stuff my therapist was like "You can always call me if you need to," and "I'll always be here" and "We can schedule extra appointments if you need them." But, now that we are getting to the hard things, he's not made any mention of these things again. And I'm left wondering, just how hard does it have to get before he will *start being there*... Maybe that's why I'm not feeling anything during the session... Hmm.. Well, I think you've solved my problem. I'll try to help you now :)
Well first of all, do you really feel like your therapist is there with you, helping you get through all of this? Do you allow him to be there with you? If not, then you should tell him so. Your reply to him was less than enthusiastic. Why? Is it because you don't really feel like he is there? Or do you not allow him to be there to help you? Or do you think you don't need/deserve help? That you should be able to help yourself...
Maybe he didn't realize the extent to your pain. If that's the case, speak up. Tell him. Say, I really need a pick-me-up right now, just a few reassuring words right now, and a question about my insurance isn't quite what I was searching for. Sometimes we are good at hiding how much we are hurting. And we want so much for others to read our minds. Even therapists can't do that (as much as we wish and think they can).
Try to use some coping skills you've learned in the past to get through this weekend. And, I'll be hear this weekend posting. Don't hesitate to post. I'll reply. And try my best to be helpful.
It's OK to be mad at your therapist. Maybe you should discuss it with him at your next session. Let him know that he upset you. That you felt more like a paycheck than a person. If he knows, then he can prevent it from happening in the future.
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