Posted by DaisyM on December 17, 2003, at 16:36:48
In reply to Put it away, yeah, right..., posted by fallsfall on December 17, 2003, at 7:36:57
I try to put feelings away too, though it is very hard. Some of the things that have worked, though at various times some do and some don't:
Go for a walk, even if it just around your own house.
Watch a sad, sad movie so you can cry for another reason. (Brian's song? Funny Girl? I like old movies)Write, write, write and write more. Write to yourself, to your Therapist, to anyone else you need to communicate with.
My Therapist tells me to sit with the feelings as long as I can so I can understand them. But if you already understand them, give yourself a predetermined amount of time (1/2 hour?) and really feel them. Then, try to shake it off and go do something.
Bake something. There is something soothing about the smell of baking stuff -- it feels like something is happening that will be good. I personally like to make cinnamon bread because the whole house smells so cozy. Eat it warm with good tea.
Truly what works best for me is 1) posting here and reading the feedback and 2) working. Being with people I don't want to share my feelings with allows me to put them away. Too bad I can't work at 2am.
I can tell you are hurting and I'm sorry. It doesn't sound like you want to call your therapist, do you? Last time it didn't really help you much, you said.
Driving with a teenager in the snow is so brave. I think driving with one here in Cal is bad -- though I'm getting calmer. Bravo for you!
Let us know how you are.
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