Posted by fallsfall on October 17, 2003, at 6:50:34
In reply to Sorry for the negative post above, posted by DaisyM on October 16, 2003, at 11:00:54
Daisy,
((((Daisy))))
Threads are big enough to hold two thoughts at once. Broken Man's grief coupled with his assurance that he lived his marriage the way he wanted to is inspiration to us all.
Your trial, is equally important. Not only are you watching your husband's body fail, but your hopes and dreams are also slipping away. It doesn't matter how much you knew about his health when you married him. I'm sure you still had dreams that there might be a miracle, or a new treatment, or just better luck that would make things easier. And that lets you dream of your future together. It is hard to see those dreams start to seem impossible.
For you, the process probably will be worse than the end. I hope that you can let the unrealistic dreams slip away (try Penny's teflon suit?) so that they won't give you pain, and enjoy holding each other in this moment.
poster:fallsfall
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