Posted by Kyp on August 6, 2003, at 19:10:24
In reply to Re: Borderline Personality and domestic abuse, posted by Alleecat64 on August 5, 2003, at 12:22:35
(It includes a lot of abuse over the phone, where if I hung up then he would either call back or threaten to drive down here, which he has done.)
*****I know it is difficult to maintain boundaries of distancing yourself out of protection yet assuring the BPD person you will NOT leave them which they so fear.
(I am so confused, numb, and nearly hopeless. I'll pray for you that your son wants to care for his own life and especially the ones who love him.)*****I talked to my son today in family therapy over the phone. He says EVERYONE is mean to him and NO ONE cares about him at the boarding school and NEVER helps him and are not teaching him ANY coping skills and will not allow him to go for walks... but he does not blame us for being mean to him by having him live there, of which I am so thankful. I feared he would feel abandoned. He is not understanding he has to compromise by following the rules and then getting priveledges nor is he ready to take personal responsibility for his actions and behavior. But he will, I trust. It may take some time, but it is a great place and the people are caring and knowledgeable of his thinking.
(How long have you had to deal with your son this way. I'm sure it probably has evolved into this, right?)
*****He had his first breakdown with being hospitalized with mania 2 years ago. the BPD traits have been a common theme with him as you say, gradually evolving. Being a teen is difficult enough, having such underlining problems with prospective about victimization and black and white thinking compounds things.I do appreciate your devotion and understanding in dealing with your friend. Respect yourself enough to not let him walk all over you and develope that co-dependency. :^)
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