Posted by fallsfall on July 21, 2003, at 8:04:50
In reply to Re: Forever therapy, posted by Morgen on July 21, 2003, at 2:01:26
It sounds to me like your feelings are very natural.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm glad to hear that the two of you have done some good work together.
I completely understand that you think she should have recognized that this will be a difficult transition for you. Unfortunately, even the best therapists don't always predict the future as well as we would like, and (as you point out) sometimes we are too good at hiding what is important to us.
Currently, I am angry at my old therapist for completely missing a lot of stuff. But at the same time, before this bad period started, I know that she taught me so much that I will use for the rest of my life. I am borderline, so it is hard for me to see good and bad at the same time. This means that I sort of have to choose. So I am choosing to be glad that I know so much more than I did. Some day I know that I will need to deal with the anger, too. But that is not today. Maybe you can handle your situation better than I can!
My experience in therapy says that it is best to bring these kinds of issues up and talk about them. Most therapists are really good at talking honestly about most subjects like this. Since this topic seems to be pretty important to you, I would suggest bringing it up right away and being as open about it as you can.
What kind of "diagnosis" are you expecting? When I think of "transference" I think of seeing my therapist having attributes or motives or actions that really belong to people in my past (i.e. my mother) and not to the therapist at all. Is that how you are using the word?
You sound perfectly normal to me...
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