Posted by Tabitha on May 8, 2003, at 12:15:54
In reply to Re: Intimacy, codependency issues » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2003, at 16:20:38
Thanks for your thoughts, Dinah. It's probably me making it more grim and confrontational because that's how it feels to me. When therp talks about it is does seem light and matter-of-fact. Like we're just talking about our differences and our experience. To me.. I think it will feel like fighting. Like somebody has to back down. So on the book incident.. I asked her, well, what if I tell him how I feel about folding back the cover and he keeps doing it anyway. She says I just keep saying what I notice, and how I feel about it. Like I notice you keep folding back my book cover after I told you it bothers me, and I feel a little angry.
Because it's not just a difference.. it's my book, and we talked about him borrowing it.. and I know if I loan it and get it back with the cover all curled up I'll be resentful. So I have to do something.. swallow the resentment, or just evade the issue and not loan it, or loan it and make him agree not to fold the cover, or something. Now do you see why I'm so single?
On toilet paper, I hate refilling the roll too. Sometimes I end up with 2 or three half-empty rolls sitting on the floor next to the roll holder, and an empty one in the holder.. just because I didn't want to put it on the holder.
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