Posted by fallsfall on April 16, 2003, at 13:21:45
In reply to Re: Misdiagnosed??, posted by noa on April 16, 2003, at 9:42:24
About 6 months into my therapy I ended up in the hospital, and when I returned to my therapist she said that I was Borderline. As is my trait, I started reading. One of the first books I read was "Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder" by Marsha Lineham. (This book is for therapists) As I started reading her description in the beginning chapters I was amazed. Finally, someone understood me! And I am not a typical Borderline - I am not impulsive, but I do have enough of the traits to know that it fits.
I've been with her now for over 8 years. Things were great until a couple of months ago. I did a bad thing and she got angry (justifiably), then we got into this thing where she is saying I'm too dependent (which I am), but I don't dare talk to her anymore because she might get angry again. It it excruciatingly painful (I'm dependent, remember?). I'm hoping that at this point we are talking together towards the same goals, but I'm not sure. Nothing like this happened in the first 8 years. She is warm, and I love it (usually).
So. A little homework on Borderline might be helpful. Your therapist should also be willing to go through the DSM-IV definition and tell you why she thinks you have which symptoms. The diagnosis was very helpful to me - I went to a DBT class (highly recommended - see Linehan's book), and reading about it gives me better perspective on why I feel certain ways. I think that you have to feel comfortable with your therapist. Warmth is very important. You should be able to talk to your current therapist about this. She should give you her assessment of the "fit". She should also give you names of people to go to, if you decide to do that.
Good Luck
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