Posted by PuraVida on March 9, 2003, at 1:47:24
In reply to A PLEA-PLEASE ANY ADVICE-I'M NEW, posted by KrissyP on March 8, 2003, at 22:19:41
Hi Kristin,
I hope a shower helped. I just posted this afternoon (the post right above yours) and guess I am looking for a bit of wisdom, too. I don't post asking for help often, though I do try to contribute and offer support, so it is even more depressing when no one replies to your post.
I was wondering if you are living at home to help your family out, or if you are there because it is best for you. I can't imagine living at home again as an adult - I had my mother live with me when I was her caregiver and it was very stressful, for sure.
Have you done any cognitive therapy? You mention wanting the feelings to stop - thing is - they just don't - otherwise we'd be robots, wouldn't we. The cognitive therapy really has helped me think through uncomfortable feelings - replacing distorted thoughts with more rational ones.
I hope you don't mind me saying, but you say you are so different from your mom, but it seems like you are doing as she does, in the sense that you are trying to take care of everyone else - feeling responsible for your mom's happiness, etc.
I do know that I need to get back into more regular therapy sessions. I changed healthcare and I don't really like my new guy - and so I haven't been. I miss my old therapist. So, maybe that is on your list of things to try too?
Well, I hope you sleep well and have a better day tomorrow -
PV
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