Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2003, at 8:29:09
In reply to Re: My literal mind can't grasp this. » Dinah, posted by likelife on March 3, 2003, at 23:25:22
Well, it took me several years to feel safe doing it. I think I might have done it even before then though, to test him and see if he'd boot me out. And perhapos half hoping he would.
I'm definitely more honest about what I tell him now, than before I felt safe. The things I complain about or tell him about are more real and less smoke screen. A lot of my first five years had to do with fighting my fears of dependency and feeling mistrustful. And my confrontations of him then were largely around that issue - and often weren't about what was really bothering me (or maybe they were :D). But now that issue is settled, more or less, I can be more honest about the other things that bother me.
So perhaps you just need a few more years. :)
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