Posted by mikhail99 on February 21, 2003, at 19:26:22
In reply to Re: Pinging Mikhail99 - Dinah and PinkEye, posted by pinkeye on February 21, 2003, at 18:02:36
> My husband thinks having sex with your wife is wrong due to some religious convictions. I am trying to tell him that that is the most stupid thing one could ever say to have sex with one's spouse is wrong but he disagrees. I think I am using my therapist as a way of escaping from my misearble marriage life. But he is a very honorable man so everytime I am about to send him a detailed letter, I stop myself. also for fear I won't be able to reach out to him when I need him the most.
> PinkEye
Oh my gosh, I can't believe your husband!! How long have you guys been married? (If you don't mind me asking?) Has he always been really religious or is this something that has developed over time? Oy vey, that's extreme. You've probably used the argument that God designed our bodies for pleasure and that sex is a gift from him to married couples, etc. Oh man, I can't imagine the discussions you must have. I really feel for you. I don't blame you for using your therapist to escape BUT you have to know that's not healthy? And I wish I could convince you that he probably won't react the way you fear he might. I played out every possible scenario in my head about how my therapist might react and because I trust him, I could see that his response would be something I could handle.Please don't think I'm lecturing you but I think it would help you to be honest with him. Please take care and hang in there.
Mik
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