Posted by Pfinstegg on October 25, 2002, at 12:32:26
In reply to Re: Fear of being angry. , posted by Dinah on October 25, 2002, at 1:26:53
What you say is so insightful- about being afraid that anger will make YOU less loving or caring- that trying to deal with it ends up making you feel more detached. I have certainly had that experience, too, although not nearly as much at present, now that I have started trying to deal with the rage which comes, seemingly out of nowhere, in my therapy hours, and which I feel really ashamed and anxious about.
When you do feel ready, take it in tiny bits at a time, so that you can integrate it, rather than fall into a state of intense anxiety or self-hatred over it. Having had basically the same kind of psychoanalytically oriented psychotherapy 35 years ago with a male therapist, I think dealing with anger is key to deepening one's relationship with the therapist, and by extension, with others in one's life. It's so hard, though, isn't it?
Pfinstegg
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