Posted by Spiffy on October 1, 2002, at 10:34:05
My wife is 30 years old and is bipolar with schizohrenia. She has been treated with this disorder for many years. She takes a ton of medication. We have been together for 6 years and they have been very very hard on me. My wife is usually hositalized every 1 to 1 1/2 years for a few weeks. She believes that "spys" are after her. Every year she believes to have a major health issue or injury. She has a thing on noticing "signs". These "signs" could be any abstract event, but to her it means something or is connected to an event in her life. Last year she swore she had cancer. This year she claims to nerve damage in her back. She has left our relationship on a number of occasions durring bad times in this illness. She had an affair during one of those times - that I know of. She has periods of times where she sleeps for weeks at a time. Then she will stay up for days. She has a habbit of talking bad behind my back. Ive notice that she even makes up situations that I have not done to justify her behavior. Its gotten so bad, I feel that I have become the person that she has made me out to be, when I know this isnt true. I feel as if Ive been labeled as a bad person because of this. She has left our marriage again. This time she says im not supportive enough. She says that she wants to try and find a "better man". She is always upset with me, most of the time over trival things. We dont have any kids. Her last husband sued her for divorse on the grounds of abandonment. She seems to be at her worse between the end of July and the second week in November. The rest of the year, her thinking is almost rational.
Now that Im alone. I feel that I was hit by a train. I love my wife and Im so devoted. But when is enough enough? Now Im depressed. I dont have any family or freinds to rely on. Should I get counciling, even thou I almost certain that our marriage is over? I really just dont know. Maybe someone can help me out.
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