Re: Oh, no, no... » judy1

Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2002, at 12:35:33

In reply to OMG!! » Dinah, posted by judy1 on August 3, 2002, at 12:10:47

I'm sure I represented him poorly. It's just that I've gotten to know him over the years, and I trust my instincts that it would be an unwise choice to tell him that particular thing.
He does has his flaws, and that's part of what's working so well in therapy. I've learned to accept him warts and all, where early in therapy I would get angry when he fell short of what I thought he should be. Now I just smile and think, "That is so him". And I don't know, but I think it's a pretty good relationship skill to have. If it's something important, I hash it out with him anyway. But this isn't so important. I do talk to him about the fear that comes along with the trust, and we do talk about my fear of abandonment by him. It isn't necessary to mention the other.
Sorry to unintentionally trigger you.
Dinah

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Re: Trust and fear Shawn. T. 8/3/02
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Re: Trust and fear » Dinah .tabi.T.ha. 8/3/02
Re: Trust and fear » .tabi.T.ha. Dinah 8/3/02
Re: Trust and fear- Dinah judy1 8/3/02
Re: I Probably shouldn't have said anything. » judy1 Dinah 8/3/02
OMG!! » Dinah judy1 8/3/02
Re: Oh, no, no... » judy1 Dinah 8/3/02
Re: Trust and fear » Dinah .tabi.T.ha. 8/3/02
This is what happens when 2 SPOWers post » Dinah judy1 8/4/02
SPOWer? (nm) » judy1 Phil 8/4/02
Re: Sensitive Person of the World » Phil Dinah 8/4/02
But not snarky people...that's good. (nm) Phil 8/4/02
Well, actually Sensitive People of the World :-) (nm) » Dinah judy1 8/4/02
I liked the 'Spower Power' concept... » Phil judy1 8/4/02

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