Posted by Nadezda on September 8, 2008, at 9:31:19
In reply to Re: help on mental illness, posted by BREAKFREE on September 8, 2008, at 7:45:11
Without knowing the situation, Breakfree, I can't really say, but my instinct would be not to confront your wife. Even if she didn't have the problems she has, I wouldn't do that, because it probably will only threaten your wife and just cause a greater divide of mistrust or betrayal between you.
I would just know that she was going through a period of misunderstanding or misinterpreting other people's motives, probably unconsciously confusing what she fears with what's real. And I would try not to allow that to color my relationships with others, and also to be as considerate of her as I could. Of course, it's hard to do that-- since it stirs up lots of feelings in you, too.
I'm glad you're getting help. I personally believe in honesty, and openness-- but I've never been in a situation with someone with your wife's problems. If it would be disruptive to tell her, and would make things worse, perhaps it's better to go for a while without letting her know. There's nothing wrong with protecting her for the moment, while seeking help.
It really would be important, though, for her to get better advice on the meds. Would she go back to her pdoc to ask for the dose to be higher?
Have you talked to her in a calm, concerned way about her fears of others, and her confusion about what's happening? Maybe if you approach it with a very soft and comforting tone, she can open up. She must feel very frightened and alone, I would think. If you seem to be accusing her, I'm sure she'll become defensive, but if you seem supportive, she may be able to think more clearly.
Nadezda
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