Posted by nutsandmore on October 30, 2006, at 16:46:11
In reply to Re: helping my son to understand his illness » shareb, posted by Deneb on May 6, 2006, at 18:19:56
I can relate in a way my mother in law has a 41 year old still living with her hooked on methodone and an 18 year old who is just lazy. Both of them are killing her, and she won't kick them out. They wont try to go to work or help themselves or nothing. The family is so irritated, because they lay there on drugs and she takes care of them and she is in her 50s and in college. We have tried to get her to send them out without a choice and make them learn how to survive on their own, but she says she cant throw her sons out even though they are taking advantage of her, I dont know what your sons illness is and im sorry if it is serious, but sometimes you have to make them. If he is still child like in his mind he may need you to order him to go to work and find a place to live, as if you were telling him to clean his room. OR take him out and find him a job, and at least let him try to start somewhere, if he becomes completely dependant on you and if he knows that you will not make him leave, he may take advantage of you to, making you feel sorry for him so that he doesn't have to take care of himself. Hope it helps some.
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