Posted by ClearSkies on October 30, 2005, at 22:42:29
In reply to Re: Hello, posted by L8tAgAiN on October 30, 2005, at 15:23:38
It hurts to see a friend go through such a horrible time. I don't know much about resources per se, just what I've tried to do personally. Mostly I listen. I'm not good at the cheering up stuff, and if someone has become so despairing that they've injured themselves, I can't imagine it's something they'd want to hear.
Listening is a great skill to cultivate, I have learned a lot. I remind them I'm here, and call or email them to do so. If they cry, I cry too (I'm easily triggered when I see people I love upset), and offer a hug if it feels like it would help.
I must sound like a simpleton, so naive. Things like helping with errands (like groceries) helps to relieve their stress too.ClearSkies
p.s. I put the word *trigger* in the subject line as a "heads up" for those at babble who might have issues in reading about self injury.
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