Posted by TamaraJ on February 16, 2005, at 17:49:38
In reply to 21 years...Definitely a trigger for some be carefu, posted by Broken on February 15, 2005, at 12:39:49
I have read your post at least three times, and I am still at a loss for what to say. I can not find the words to express my sympathies to the 15 year old boy who had to stand by feeling powerless, only to be told to keep up stiff upper lip and not outwardly grieve after having experienced such a loss, or the respect I feel for the good, strong person you have obviously become, or the gratitude I feel for you having shared this part of you with us. I don't think we ever completely let go of the grief we experience after losing a loved one, particularly one we worshipped and held in such high regard. But, I believe it is true that the pain we experience does diminish, with time, so that we are no longer consumed by it and can continue to function and, in time (our own time), live full and happy lives. I think we come to terms with our grief and our loss as time goes on by holding on to special memories, the belief that the person would have wanted us to carry on, our own desire to make the person proud, and the knowledge that the person will always have a special place in our hearts.
Thanks Broken for sharing such a profound part of yourself and your life experience. It touched me deeply.
Tamara
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