Posted by AdaGrace on November 16, 2004, at 19:53:46
In reply to I suppose life returns to normal now?, posted by saw on November 16, 2004, at 0:39:19
Sabrina
No, it does not return to normal. Not right away, and who is to say what is normal?
It hurts like hell, and it does for a while.
Get through today, and try to get through tomorrow, and then try for the next day.
That is how I did it. It's not easy, and it's not fast.It takes time.
Listen to me, I am so jacked up inside over my own crappola, but I know this, I have lost my Mother, and it has been 6 years.
There is no right or wrong way to deal with this, but pretending it didn't happen or trying to "get on with normalcy" isn't it.
You do the best you can, the best way you can. It hurts, and there will be days where you really feel terrible, and then there are beautiful days where you think of that person who passed on and you smile about something they said, or something they did.
And before you know it, you are remembering them with fondness all the time and you are imagining them with other loved ones laughing their arse off to the point of peeing their pants over something someone said......at least that is how it is for me. It gets better. It really does.
Even if I am so full of hate and self loathing right now, I know that I dealt with my Mother's death the best I could, and it was hell on earth. Having lived through that, you would think I could deal with the thing I am dealing with right now better, but I see it differently, different issues, different situations.
I feel for you sweety, really I do.
E-mail when you can.
AdaGrace
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