Posted by Crazy_Charlie on November 4, 2004, at 6:10:03
In reply to Re: my sister » mopey, posted by TofuEmmy on September 14, 2004, at 11:10:57
> In grief, there really is no "ought to" or "should". Every grief is different. Our minds are amazing things. It let's us process what we can, when we can. Perhaps right now you are still in shock over this sudden loss. Perhaps over time, your mind will allow you to absorb more of what happened, and you will feel more pain then.
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> Or perhaps you are expecting to grieve in a certain way, say by crying, but your way of grieving may be to bicycle more. Like I said, every grief is different.
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> I met a man once who talked to me about not grieving for his wife at all. We talked for an hour. The whole time he was chopping wood angrily. Well, heck...he was grieving right there in that wood pile.
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> Please keep posting. Don't feel obligated to feel a certain way, or grieve a certain way, or on a certain schedule. Your relationship with your sister was unique, and your loss is unique. And so will be your grief.
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> Emmy
Beautiful words, Emmy. I have an internet page where I write about people I have lost that has meant much to me. I would be very thankful if you would allow me to quote you on that page. I will not change anything of what you are saying, and I will write "Emmy" underneath it so people will understand that it's not my own words. I find your words here very valuable and importantCincerely, Charlie
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