Posted by Shar on September 24, 2004, at 22:02:46
In reply to Still Grieving 1 Year Out..., posted by Mimi on September 23, 2004, at 16:40:02
OK, I wrote this great post, but, I went back to the original message and lost the whole thing.
Basically, you 'should' start a new relationship when you are ready to start a new life. When what you have will add to both of your lives.
People have interim relationships (rebound relationships) which I think is ok, unless the people involved don't understand the "I might or might not be able to have a relationship with you" part. Whatever happens, I think it is most important to be honest with one's other.
A date is fine. And, see how it goes. But starting a relationship to forget another is not a very good foundation, IMHO. It's like having a baby to save a marriage.
If you meet someone who you think is cool, and are attracted to--because of the person--I think it's great to check it out. But, if you meet someone, and you think you could 'settle for this for a while' well, then, nahhhh, probably not worth it (plus people get hurt).
Oh, well, only my 2 cents. I do hospice (death/dying) work, so I see people all the time in various stages of grief, and that's sort of what I'm basing my answer on. It could be totally inappropriate to your situation (that is, 'your mileage may vary').
Best regards,
Shar
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