Posted by gardenergirl on July 16, 2004, at 22:09:56
In reply to I need advice to give a friend, posted by captain on July 15, 2004, at 11:14:25
captain,
Your friends are so lucky to have such a caring person in their lives. I don't have much in the way of specific bereavement advice for you. I just was struck by two things. First, it's so darned hard to know what to say when someone else is grieving. Everyone grieves in their own way, and in their own time. It's normal to have some symptoms of depression in this time. I honestly don't know if antidepressants can help or not. But if your friend is really shut down and is not functioning...not going to work, class, whatever, not taking interest in anything, changes in sleep or appetite, grooming, etc, then maybe she is moving from bereavement into depression. Either way, listening, as Pat said, is probalby the best thing to do for her right now, and for your other friend.I'm kind of sticky with grief, as well. So just a caution...please make sure to take care of yourself at this time, too. You may find it to be extra draining, or triggering of your own fears and anxieties about death of a loved one.
Take care,
gg
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