Posted by Alexander on December 1, 2003, at 15:18:02
In reply to How do I deal with this???, posted by LostInTransferance on November 25, 2003, at 21:31:08
> OK...let me start off by saying that I've read some of the posts here, and people have a lot of really good insight and ideas. I just hope that somebody somewhere can help me with this. Here's the problem...Transference Love. A couple days ago, my girlfriend realized that she was experiencing a case of Transferance with her therapist. For a while, she was describing in vivid detail the 'relationship' that she had with him. The only problem here is that I worked for the therapy office at the time, and I knew her therapist, and his love for his job. I doubted that the 'relationship' was real, but due to her unbeleivable detail in memory, i couldn't help but believe it. She had been telling me for weeks about this 'relationship' and out of nowhere, she came to me one day and said "I've been doing some reading and I know what I was going through was only Transferance" I was caught off guard by this and began asking questions. Her answer was basically "To be honest...the relationship I described never happened" Nobody got in trouble as for some reason or another, she didn't mention this to anybody in the office, but now the problem is she's having trouble showing me affection, and we've been together for a little while. I just need to know how to help her cope with this, and maybe even how she should be coping with this. I'm being about as understanding as I can, but I feel helpless...her experience with Transferance is making me depressed. I didn't know where else to turn without getting somebody in trouble, so I came here. Hopefully somebody can help me with this problem
Transference?
love?
relationship?
relationship never happened?
--> are u the partner of the individual? I would seriously consider reporting the incidence to the respective regulatory body.
Because there are reasons that there are very strict rules re. psych-patient relationships. ...and they are certainly not in place to prevent "transference" from occuring.
poster:Alexander
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